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Before you start reading this, I just want to let you know that I do not do all these things with blissful glee. I want to, I’m a work in progress with the intention of being a more godly wife, probably much like you.
Sometimes when I read about the Proverbs 31 wife, I feel in adequate, that I’ll never measure up and that I’ve failed A LOT!
At times, instead of lifting my husband up, I put him down. I’ve been quick to reply with harsh words, and since my nature isn’t touchy-feely, I’ve avoided giving the kisses and hugs when he gets home from work even when I know he so desperately needs them.
So with that said, here are 7 Ways to LOVE our husbands, or as I’ll look at it, to be the BETTER wife that I so desperately want to be. And as Valentine’s Day approaches and we begin thinking about loving our husbands, I hope this list can inspire us to be just that–become better, more godly wives to our guys.
7 Ways to Love Your Husband
1. Be full of encouragement.
Be supportive, helping him fulfill his needs and goals in life.
I once heard someone say that one of the most attractive… read more over at Keeper of the Home where I share 7 ways to love our guys!!
What other ways do you love your husband? What are your best suggestions on learning to be a better wife?
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February 14 is quickly approaching and you know what that means! Hallmark commercials, pink and red hearts and potentially disgruntled women whose husbands fail to meet their high expectations for a romantic evening.
It doesn’t have to be that way! As wives, we have the potential to make this holiday perfectly wonderful by romancing our husbands! Maybe this sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out. I’d like to share how I’m learning to change my attitude when I feel my husband neglects meeting my expectations and also some fun ideas for rekindling the fire with your spouse this Valentine’s Day.
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When you were first married, what sweet things did your husband do for you? Did he write you poems or cute notes, give you sweet compliments or surprise you with flowers? These things all happened at first in my marriage but at some point they began fading away. Was it my husband’s fault? It certainly was, so I thought. But maybe, just maybe, I had something to do with it too!
Let’s switch perspectives: How did you act around your husband as a newlywed? When Kirk and I were first married, I was thrilled to be in his presence and would always greet him with a warm smile and kiss. Because we were both in school and working, I wanted to spend as much time with him as possible outside of those commitments and so we purposed to make the most of our days together. I was enthusiastic in my endeavor to “cozy up” our little apartment and make into a home. My mind was on how I could make our new life together enjoyable and fun. We made it fun because we were each other’s top priority and were committing to spending time together.
Life became more complex when our first child was born and my priorities subtly began shifting to being the best mom I could be. I began putting lots of time and energy into sleep schedules, making my own baby food and reading books to my son. I didn’t even realize that my husband was no longer being treated as the most important person in my life. This continued to happen as we brought two more children into the world.
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In Scripture, God calls us to “love one another earnestly from a pure heart” (1 Peter 1:22). To be earnest means to be:
- serious in intention or purpose
- zealous
- showing depth and sincerity of feeling
It eventually dawned on me that I absolutely loved my husband just as much as when we were first married but the way I demonstrated that love was no longer as earnest as before! There came a point when it was necessary for me to come to God and ask Him to help me to zealously express my deep feelings for my husband and put him back in his rightful place as the most important person in my life, just as I had in the “honeymoon” stage of our marriage.
As I began putting my husband back on the top of my priority list, I found to my surprise that all the things I’d nagged him to do for years (in the emotional department) began happening again! The sweet words, compliments and flowers returned. I was thrilled! And I began to understand that when I acted on my feelings for my husband, he was more responsive to my feelings. It wasn’t the nagging that made the difference in his actions; it was the change in my attitude.
Obviously, I still slip up in this area often and will continue to through the rest of my marriage. We can’t be perfect, but that’s okay! If we struggle in this area, God gives us the grace we need and slowly changes our hearts. We can depend on Him to gives us the creativity and joy we are looking for as we show love to our husbands.
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So in the spirit of these thoughts and of Valentine’s Day, I’d like to offer some simple suggestions that we wives can do as we play our part in the romance!
- Get up with your husband and chat with him in the morning before he leaves for work (if he’s normally up before you and you like to sleep in like me, this will be a good challenge!).
- Pack a lunch you know he likes and tuck a love note in his lunch container.
- Call him at work at an unexpected time and giggle as you sweet-talk him.
- Buy him his favorite candy bar (you know, the one you don’t want him to eat because it’s unhealthy)
- Praise your husband, both privately and publically. This is one thing that has such a huge impact both on our marriage and on my husband’s reputation with others.
- Sit by him on the couch at the end of the day with no computer in your lap and just be there for him (ahem, note to self!).
- Build up his confidence throughout the day by telling him things you love about him.
- Write him a love letter.
- Resist the urge to correct him when he’s with the kids and just let him be the fun dad!
- Flirt with him!
- Grab his hand when you’re out in public or just passing by him at home.
- Find the most romantic Valentine’s card you can (that suits you and your husband’s style) and give it to him on Valentine’s Day before a candlelight dinner (or dinner out if you can manage it). Write something intimate inside and enjoy his response to your flattery
- Make Love Buckets
I hope these thoughts have been an encouragement to you. We really can have the best Valentine’s Day (and every day) possible by just a change in our thinking and a little extra effort. And we just might find that our own hopes and expectations for romance are met in the process!
How do you show your husband that you love him?
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