Marriage & Communication

I just read that it is national marriage week, so I’m going to write about my hubby and I, especially since Valentine’s Day in coming up.

We have been together for 9 years, married for 6. We have been through many ups and downs, joys, bumps in the road and still I find that I love him even more now! And it is such a JOY to think about where we were, where God has brought us, and to think about where God will bring us!

Back in 2003,  I made a profile on the knot.com and here are some of the things I wrote in purple: (it is so funny to look back on, excuse the grammar, I seem so young)

We were married on a HOT sunny day in the middle of an Arizona SUMMER.

What were we thinking????

I know his family was thinking, I am never coming back out here! just kidding!

After our wedding, the next week we celebrated our honeymoon in Mexico. Hoping one day to have another honeymoon on our 10 year anniversary.

MAYBE???

In the beginning of our marriage we had a lot of communication problems. (still do sometimes) It was hard to get use to living with someone. We didn’t know how to express our feeling or opinions without going overboard with emotions at times or holding things in until one of us boiled over.

Now, we try to communicate by being patient, being truthful, not acting on our anger and are willing to see the issue through each others eyes which is the hardest for me. And communication is something we will have to work on for the rest of our lives.

What the bible says? (here are some verses, although there are many)

• Patience- James 1:19  says “be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry.”
• Being truthful-Ephesians 4:25-27 “What this adds up to, then, is this: no more lies, no more pretense. Tell your neighbor the truth. In Christ’s body we’re all connected to each other, after all. When you lie to others, you end up lying to yourself. ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.” After all, anger is not a sin, it’s an emotion, but it can become a sin on how you react to the anger.
• Empathy-  1 Peter 3:8 ”Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with eachother. Love eachother as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted and keep a humble attitude.

I am going to work on communicating better in these areas this week! Below is a video I made a year and a half ago for my hubby on our 5th wedding anniversary. Hope you enjoy! If you would like to make your husband or someone special a FREE video, be sure to check out One True Media!