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]]>Most of us will go through some pretty tough times at some point in our lives. Before I shared my story, I didn’t realize the power and healing it would have.
God is writing a GREAT masterpiece.. He is writing the stories of our lives! And we are all currently walking through different chapters and different seasons.
In Paul Tripp’s book, New Morning Mercies, he says…
He is writing a story in my own life…here’s a quick synopsis:
✍️The chapters start all the way in Arizona
to end up in TN🛣. From growing up, finding Jesus to my first job at @crackerbarrel
. Then going to college at @leeuniversity to marrying Jake, moving to SC where we both finished our degrees
, him at @shermancollege and I went to the university SC-upstate… where we had a couple babies. After graduating moving to TN where we found ⛪ @foothillschurchtn & are still part of it after 8+ years. After waiting and trusting God, we opened @victoryhealthcenter !! Experienced loss but all along the way knowing the Lord had a plan.
Later had a couple more babies all while starting homeschooling. And even still after 13 years of marriage
, I still am in as much love as I was with Jake as when I first met him at that @leeuflames
basketball game
. And in this current chapter of heartbreaking loss of another miscarriage
, I find comfort knowing the God has a a plan and it is GOOD!
If you’re current chapter is hard, find comfort in knowing you’re not alone and that the Lord is with you. (I’m having to constantly remind myself as I walk this chapter out) ❤️
Here’s a link to my DRAW MY LIFE Story!
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]]>The purpose of using a morning basket is to start your day off with truth, goodness and beauty. With the things that matter the most! Which are being together, reading and talking about Jesus, reading scripture, diving into rich literate and the art as well as having some laughs!
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]]>It’s important to seek God first in all we do. I enjoy the fact that God gives us best friends, because there is nothing better than a girls day out luncheon. Time alone with my best friend, lunch and hot tea. They are far and few between, so I cherish each of those moments. It’s a time to talk, laugh and encourage one another.
During my daily bible reading and prayer time this morning, I was brought to Psalm 19:14.
“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.” Psalm 19:14
Now, I’ve read this passage numerous times over, but this time God let in hang heavy on my heart.
I was enjoying my rare girl’s day out luncheon and the conversation we were having. But the lightheartedness turned into more of a heartache and consoling talk. My friend was hurt and frustrated with a family member and was seeking validation and advice on her feelings.
There is a fine line between gossip and seeking counsel, that we all must be aware of as Christians. God does want us to control our thoughts. In Philippians 4:8, the bible tells us what God expects us to think on. When we let negative thoughts run loose like wild horses in our mind, then we are not following God’s command.
On top of controlling our thoughts, we are not to be controlled by our feelings. God wants to be first in our lives. We need to bring to Him all that lays heavy on our hearts before we share with others. God comes before our husband, children, family and best friends.
I whole heartily believe that God will perfectly orchestrate women to come into our lives to be there for us and encourage us in our walk with God. We can turn to each other, to pray for each other and be there in hard times and good times. But first – unquestionable- God must come first.
When I’m frustrated, hurt, confused, mad or about to throw my hands in the air and give up; I need to turn to God first. I have noticed, more times than I’d like to admit, that I’ve sought out christian friends, music and podcasts for help and encouragement, when walking through a dark time in life. How on earth did I get to a point where I am seeking out everything else before I seek God? He created everything!
And here I am, with Psalm 19:14 laying heavy on my heart. It should be our prayer everyday. That the words of our mouth and the meditations of our heart be acceptable to Him. We need to be so grounded in our relationship with God, confident in who He is and who we are in Him.
So I’m sharing my heavy heart with you today to encourage you. God cares for you and your pain, however, He also cares for the person that frustrates you. Pray first. Pray God will help you through this. Pray for the person that has hurt you. Then if you still needing prayers from your husband or friend, go talk to them. Just make sure your thoughts and words are pleasing to God and that your friend will always point you back to Christ and what the bible says.
Much Love,
Starla J.
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]]>My kids often ask why they have to go to sleep at all.
Why isn’t an afternoon nap enough? Why do we have to sleep so much at night? And maybe most importantly to them, when are my parents going to bed and what am I going to be missing out on?
These are deep questions to young kids, and of course there’s always the “because I told you so” approach to settle their queries. Honestly, there are plenty of afternoons and nights when that is the only response I feel up to giving.
You need to go to sleep because otherwise mama is going to go crazy.
But there’s a deeper response that I sometimes give them, and it’s good for us all to reflect on too.
Really I am thankful for all their innocent questions because when I take the time to answer them adequately, it becomes a learning opportunity for them and a good reminder for me. And even though we plan for more structured ways to teach them about God, these short conversations are often what take root most effectively.
We were designed to need rest. Physiologically, emotionally, spiritually– we need time to reboot and reset. It’s true for my kids and it’s very true for me.
This basic, but important, need is not without purpose. Sure we can overlook it and stick with the pithy reasons for why sleep is important. Ultimately, though, our need for rest points us to our limits and our dependence on the limitless One. This is what we tell our kids.
It’s easy as mothers to start our day with a to-do list and plow through, regardless of the messages our bodies and minds are sending us. We are chronically busy as a culture. Whether you work out of the home or spend much of your time in the home, you almost certainly feel the same crunch and pressure to do it all.
A daily rest time is typically one of the first things cut when our schedule are bursting at the seams. The dishes and the laundry and the errands and the demands of our planners and people in our lives take precedence over our needs.
We do and do and do until we faint from exhaustion or snap at our kids because we are so stressed or get sick because our bodies are worn down.
We need to know our limits and embrace our need for rest without feeling guilty that we are not doingallthethings. Because when you can’t do it all, you need to prioritize what really matters.
Let’s give ourselves the freedom in our schedules and permission to not feel bad about recognizing our need to take care of ourselves, even while we are taking care of everyone else. You may feel like you are neglecting your lists, but what you are really doing is simply making a different choice and coming out more ready to be a better wife/mother/friend/worker/person.
Maybe it looks like a short reset with a coffee and a book while your children have independent play time.
Maybe you listen to an audiobook and take the long way home while you breathe deeply after a day of work.
Maybe what you really need is to take a nap while your baby naps.
Maybe all it takes is a good conversation with a friend that makes you laugh or think or remember you’re loved.
For me, it most often looks like a period of quiet time during my kids’ afternoon rest times. Not all of my kids nap anymore, but they all have their own rest time in their rooms. And while the house is quiet, this introvert savors the silence and soaks in the break from using all my words and meeting everyone’s needs.
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]]>This year’s Random Acts of Kindness Day falls on February 17, 2016.
Doing acts of kindness make us feel good about ourselves. The person on the receiving end of our kindness gets extra love that day. There is just something that makes our hearts lighter knowing we put a smile on someones face – even just for a moment.
My family has this great list of things we do in honor of Random Acts of Kindness day.
Cut out as many hearts as you can out of construction paper and tape them to the inside and outside of the car. Set aside a few of them and write reasons why you love that person. When my husband was deployed, the kids and I sent him a “heart attack” care package. We stuffed that box full of hearts! So fun!
My husband and I will cut out 7 hearts from construction paper – 7 per child. For one week we tape one heart to each of our kids bedroom doors. On the hearts we write the reasons why we love that child. Examples: You are creative, You are funny, You are smart, You love to read, You give the best hugs, etc.
Are there stores in your community that still have public boards up so people may pin things that they have for sale or their missing dog posters? We made a “take what you need” poster and pinned it up at a local grocery store here in town.
Life can be hard. If you know someone who is sick, mourning the loss of a loved one, just had a new baby, a shut in or someone who is struggling in a hard season of life and could use a pick me up – bring them a meal or special desert.
Once a year we will collect items to be donated to the local shelter. This past November we were able to donate a box full of winter hats, gloves and socks.
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]]>The same thing happens every year. The temperature start to dip. The wind changes from a refreshing breeze to a biting chill. Enter more gray skies. Less color. Less sunshine. More grump.
At first, it’s fun to break out the sweaters, the scarves, and the boots. We are ready for a change and welcome the seasonal shift without much complaining. But after the holidays, when January and February come, you are likely dealing with fatigue and stir-crazy kids in addition to cold weather.
I don’t know about you, but it has always been a struggle for me to embrace winter with a cheerful attitude. Or even an ungrudging attitude, with minimal complaints. It’s not my favorite season, and it shows in the things I say and in my Instagram captions.
Living with a complaining heart isn’t pleasant, though. So in the past few years I have tried to be much more intentional about changing not only the way I talk about this season, but also the way that I think about it. Because, as you know, lasting change starts on the inside.
While it’s true that warmer clothing, fires in the fireplace, and more comfort foods all help to make the season more enjoyable/endurable. This year, I’ve added another strategy to changing the way I approach winter. And even better, it’s one we can do together as a family, so we can all be on board.
In our last trip to the library, we checked out Laura Ingalls Wilder’s book, The Long Winter. Most nights since then, we gather together near the fireplace while mama reads a chapter about the Ingall family.
I knew it would be good for me to read during this season, but I did not realize how helpful it would be to gain a little perspective on how good we have it in our home (and likely in yours too).
The cheerful Ingalls family lives in a claim shanty with thin walls, no heat besides their fire, and a cold walk to get necessary water. Just tonight, we read about how after a three-day blizzard, the cattle outside actually had their heads frozen to the ground because the conditions were so bad.
Now, I’ve written about how comparison can be the thief of joy and a major roadblock in relationships, but maybe comparison every once in a while isn’t such a bad thing. This winter try a little comparison to help you check your attitude and gain perspective.
We did just that after reading one night this week. Together we spent a few minutes comparing what our winter looks like with what winter looked like for Laura and her sisters. And it really opened up my eyes.
Of course, the comparisons could go on, but at this point I was thinking of other perks of winter. Like reading together by the fire. More family time as we stay home more often. And simply more occasions to point our children to the Creator and controller of the seasons.
So here’s my encouragement to everyone who, like me, has a history of needing an attitude check during the winter. Either together as a family, or by yourself while you’re enjoying your favorite hot beverage, make a list of what you can be thankful for this season. Write it down and remind each other. Then find a good book (maybe one about winters worse than yours!) and make time to enjoy it together.
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]]>On the heels of New Year’s come the New Year resolutions that we all make.
Whatever the goals or resolutions: healthier way of eating, weight loss, financial goals, marriage goals and/or spiritual goals they all can be accomplished if we set ourselves up to succeed.
I prayfully chose a word and a Bible verse to focus on throughout this year.
Now that a theme word, goal or resolution has been chosen, what’s next? How do we make sure we are setting ourselves up to succeed? We do this by having a plan.
Every morning spend time praying over your resolution. Seeking God about your goals will help you stay focused and aligned with God’s will for your life. Ask God to help you succeed! Just like Eliezer did in Psalm 145:18
Make the time to plan your day, week, month and year out. Write down your goals and the plans you have to accomplish. Thinking ahead will help you achieve your goals. For example, are you trying to eat healthier? Plan out and prepare what you will eat for the next day or week. Stock the fridge and pantry with healthy foods and snacks. Plan what exercises you will get done and when you will do them.
Look at your goals and the plan you have set into place to help you achieve your goals. Now get on it! Do not procrastinate. If you’re trying to save money and pay off debt; don’t wait till the next paycheck or the next month to start on that stricter budget. Start today! Start now!
Bringing other people in your life that will encourage, motivate and hold you accountable while you are working on your resolutions is a huge help in succeeding. Accountability holds you responsible to your goals, plans and actions as you work on your resolutions.
Bumps in the road happen to all of us. Be flexible enough in your plans by allowing bumps in the road to happen and not throw you off course. Be clear about your goals, but flexible in the process of achieving them. Remember life happens and that is OK.
Stay positive about your goals and resolutions. Even if you have had a bad day, week or month; you can still bounce back, refocus and accomplish your goals. Stop those negative thoughts in their tracks. Philippians 4:8 reminds us of what God wants us to think about.
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]]>Happiness seems such a difficult thing sometimes. I have a devoted husband, loving and successful children, a beautiful home and the kind of life I always thought would be out of my grasp. Yet some days, the failures of my life play over and over like a movie reel, reminding me of unforgivable shortcomings and casting a shadow of fear across my future.
The thing is, I’m human: a flawed, imperfect human who’s in a constant mode of figuring things out. We all are. As much as we believe we’re supposed to understand everything by now, the truth is we don’t and we can’t and we never fully will. The best we can do is accept ourselves and our lives for the amazing miracles that they are and learn to be happy, because we only have this one life.
It seems counter-intuitive: decluttering is such a stressful activity, but the results are life-changing. Studies have shown that a cluttered area makes your brain feel like there’s chaos around. You automatically get a heightened sense of stress. This becomes your baseline and everything else piles on.
Start out small and set easily attainable goals like “By the end of January, I’m going to have my bedroom sorted”. This doesn’t mean it has to look like something off Pinterest. It simply means that clothes are neatly put away in drawers, surfaces are clear of all but a few possessions, floors are clear and cleaned. Waking up in a space where you aren’t reminded of things you have to catch up on will improve your mood from the get go.
I don’t mean have the perfect home and craft everything yourself and cook like a pro. Nope. What I always find soothing on Martha’s shows is that she frequently plays soothing music in the background. It’s the kind of music on the kiosk by the greeting cards in Target: a kind of classical with acoustic guitars and whatnot.
For the month of December, I played the “Classical Christmas” station on Pandora at a soft volume at home. It changed the entire vibe of the house. Not only was it calming, but I noticed that I became more productive. It worked so well, in fact, that I started using it during my Girl Scout meetings and it really seemed to help move things along.
“My face looks old and I hate it”. “I’ve gained so much weight, I’ve let myself go”. This kind of negative self-talk will ruin you. Not can, WILL. It’s tough to fight those demons, so take a logical approach and think of yourself as a trusted friend you can give advice to.
If my friend said she hated the way she looked, I would a) tell her she’s beautiful and perfect just the way she is; and b) suggest that maybe she can make a small change with big impact: a new hairstyle or color. Maybe new makeup. For me, I find just spritzing a little MAC Fix+ on my face makes me instantly look more alert, which is transformative. When I feel fat, I go out shopping for a new shirt or two that are not oversized and hiding myself, but flattering to my figure, no matter what shape that may be at the moment. Having at least one outfit that makes you look good will do so much more for your self-esteem than thinking you look like a blob in everything.
A few years ago, my husband and I had a huge argument. I can’t even remember now what it was about. It wasn’t anything life-changing, but I was beyond angry. Beyond. I wondered to myself, “what comes next?”. I imagined a high-drama movie where a divorcing couple has to stand in front of a judge and state the reason their marriage is irreparable. I imagined the judges annoyed reaction when I told him that this fight was the reason for our split. I realized that in the big picture, this argument was nothing. I couldn’t hold this grudge forever, and really, I’d be terribly flawed if I did.
The point is to try to see situations in perspective. Are you being fair in the discipline of your children? Are you responding appropriately to people who are less than courteous? Is that conflict with a teacher/administrator/parent going to matter in a year? How about a month? How about a week? Are you even going to remember this happening? Probably not. Put it into perspective and respond appropriately.
Whether you’re jotting it down in one of those handy line-a-day journals or just taking a quiet moment to reflect, make sure you take the time to find something positive in each day. In our family, we have a tradition: every night at dinner, we go around the table and everybody states how their day was (for better or for worse) and then they tell the best part of the day. For the kids, they also have to state what the best part of school was. This helps us to ensure that each day, no matter how tough, we all find something that brought us joy. As an added bonus: it keeps our family close and gets a lot more info out of the kids than simply asking “what did you do at school today?” which always produced a non-answer.
I hope these tips help you keep happiness close. If you feel though that nothing can make you happy anymore, please see a professional. Sometimes we need personal coaching to be reminded of how incredibly precious our lives are.
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]]>The holiday season often brings along with it unwanted stress.
Christmas parties, holiday shopping, cooking, cleaning, entertaining, children Christmas play practices, extended time with family, limited funds and everything else wrapped around the holidays may cause unwanted stress.
However, following the tips below may help us manage this stress and keep our holidays joyful.
Do not procrastinate. Get as many tasks done as early as possible. Write out a to-do list and beside each item on your list – write the date/time that it needs to be done by. Put your list on your fridge, in your calendar or anywhere you will see it and will be reminded to get stuff done.
Are you hosting and cooking the holiday meal for your entire family this year? Do not let anyone, including yourself, make you feel like you have to be superwoman and unless you thoroughly enjoy, want and can peacefully handle that huge responsibility get your family members to help you by bringing a drink, side dish and/or desert to the holiday meal. Pick one or two things that you can shine at and do them well. Let everyone else help by bringing an item to share.
Most of us love and dream of the picture perfect home, decor, family and food when planning the holiday, but when hiccups in our plans happen (and they will) it may cause our high expectations to come crashing down on us. Which may cause unneeded stress. Set realistic goals for yourself, your family and the holidays.
Pretty much the entire month of December you’ll find bumper to bumper traffic. Everyone is out shopping for presents and supplies for the upcoming holiday. Do not shop till you drop! Give yourself a time out. Take a break. You need time to rest, re-group and re-energize. Getting plenty of rest will help you maintain your stress at a balanced level.
Make out a budget and stick to it. Don’t let family, neighbors, nor friends make you feel like you must have or spend a certain amount of money to have a good Christmas. Don’t fall into the trap that your kids will not be happy without that $500 item on their wishlist. Although anyone would enjoy to be lavished upon during the holidays, Christmas is not about the gifts. It’s about being with those that you love and spending time together. If you are using credit cards to purchase everything, please remember that come January you will get that hefty bill in the mail. Communicate with your family before hand and try to get everyone on board with a family Christmas budget.
Lighten up. Laugh. Go with the flow. Be flexible. Give yourself and others grace and love. Remember what the holidays are really about.
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” John 14:27
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]]>Written by KT @ One Organic Mama, Contributing Writer
Each year, our home fills with the kind gifts that those who love my children. I am so grateful for all of the wonderful and loving people in my life who surround them with fun stuff! Instagramed pictures of giant piles of gifts fill my phone and long lists to santa fill my facebook page. However, as the world becomes smaller with the internet, I find it harder and harder to create a list of things my kids or I “need” when people ask.
We want for nothing. When my kids want to sign up for soccer, I can buy the cleats. When they are hungry, I can grow and buy food. When they are cold, I can turn on the heat. We don’t need anything.
I find it hard to spend money on things we don’t need when there are so many wonderful organizations providing for people who do really NEED. Here are some of the details on organizations that need my money more than I do. I am always careful to research how much funding ends up in the hands of those who need it – so I wanted to share that information here. I also share some ideas for getting involved more locally for Christmas. The descriptions and missions are taken from the organizations’ pages.
A nonprofit which helps find and free slaves through strategic action and ordinary people. The Exodus Road empowers rescue for current victims of human trafficking, equips nationals to fight slavery in their own communities, and encourages effective collaboration among practitioners.
We seek to empower family farmers and workers around the world, while enriching the lives of those struggling in poverty. We use a market-based approach that empowers farmers to get a fair price for their harvest, helps workers create safe working conditions, provides a decent living wage, and guarantees the right to organize.
A nondenominational evangelical Christian organization providing spiritual and physical aid to hurting people around the world.
World vision is a Christian humanitarian organization dedicated to working with children, families, and communities worldwide to reach their full potential by tackling the root causes of poverty and injustice.
If you would rather do something local here are a few ideas:
You can find the above information by combing through a charity’s records (most/all of which are available online) – but here are some good resources to use when choosing an organization to donate your money to!
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